tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16682364.post113883307359780748..comments2023-11-02T10:12:06.326-03:00Comments on Journey Into Being: Ladies Of The ClubZarebahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15036285066771181559noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16682364.post-1143525914852763862006-03-28T02:05:00.000-04:002006-03-28T02:05:00.000-04:00I just did. Thanks, Zareba. Things are getting be...I just did. Thanks, Zareba. <BR/><BR/>Things are getting better, and I'm keeping my fingers crossed. However, I understand that my sister must decide on a threshold of pain that she can endure, and if that threshold is ever crossed in the future, I will do all I can to get my sis out of there and support her.ambarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06751490965180500448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16682364.post-1143291346632563312006-03-25T08:55:00.000-04:002006-03-25T08:55:00.000-04:00Nonbeing: It is hard at any time to terminate a re...Nonbeing: It is hard at any time to terminate a relationship, particularly if there are children. However, a close look without rose colored glasses, shows that the children are more damaged by staying in such a relationship than in terminating it.They learn what they see and if they growup with abuse, they learn to either be an abuser or take abuse willingly from a partner. <BR/><BR/>Your sister is also preventing herself from finding a true soul mate, and the life long happiness that this generates.<BR/><BR/>I speak from experience on both counts. I left an abusive spouse when my daughter was 5 years old, andhave spent the last 30+ years with the best man I have ever known.<BR/><BR/>Please pass this on to your sister as well. ...ZZarebahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15036285066771181559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16682364.post-1143281274671945342006-03-25T06:07:00.000-04:002006-03-25T06:07:00.000-04:00Thanks for this article. My sister's relationship ...Thanks for this article. My sister's relationship with her husband is far less than ideal. Though she has suffered abuse from him, she has propagated the cycle of vicious hate that persists in her family. She abuses him right back in whatever ways she can, and this has led to severe deterioration of physical and mental health of everyone.<BR/><BR/>They both hate each other, but it's much harder for a couple to separate in Hindu society, partly because of the crap conditioning imposed on us that the woman is supposed to worship her husband - "pati parmeshwar" in Hindi. It's difficult for my sister to leave him because she doesn't want the kids to grow up without a father, and she might not even get the kids in a divorce because her in-laws are lawyers by profession.<BR/><BR/>However, things are getting a little better - my sister has found a means of spiritual sustenance ("The Art of Living") and is now less financially dependent on her husband because she works from home. I think the turning point for her was finding the love of Sri Sri Ravi Shankar, who is truly a living Buddha.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your article, it was interesting and helpful. I will pass it on to my sis.ambarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06751490965180500448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16682364.post-1141613559916258682006-03-05T22:52:00.000-04:002006-03-05T22:52:00.000-04:00Thank you all for your comments. I hope to be here...Thank you all for your comments. I hope to be here more soon. Spring is just around the corner and the renewal of the season also renews me.Zarebahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15036285066771181559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16682364.post-1141449254446631092006-03-04T01:14:00.000-04:002006-03-04T01:14:00.000-04:00Hello Zareba,How are you doing? I have not heard ...Hello Zareba,<BR/><BR/>How are you doing? I have not heard from you for a while. <BR/><BR/>Any signs of spring yet up there?Red Barkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02271057885244539420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16682364.post-1140297478088857262006-02-18T17:17:00.000-04:002006-02-18T17:17:00.000-04:00I'm so glad you deal with this topic, and so well....I'm so glad you deal with this topic, and so well. Fortunately I've never had to deal with abuse from a husband, but I was physically abused by my guardian while I was growing up. I'm sure that I never would have used physical or mental abuse on my daughter while she was growing up, but my background reinforced my determination that her childhood would not be the same, and it wasn't. <BR/><BR/>Keep up the good work!Darlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14097905937552636768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16682364.post-1139924304117187282006-02-14T09:38:00.000-04:002006-02-14T09:38:00.000-04:00Just dropping in to say hello. Hope you are well....Just dropping in to say hello. Hope you are well.Meadowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13200771118045164229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16682364.post-1138991104944080052006-02-03T14:25:00.000-04:002006-02-03T14:25:00.000-04:00You may well be right, Hayden. That is certainly o...You may well be right, Hayden. That is certainly one factor but there is also an actual increase as life gets harder and harder for young families. Our economic situation has driven more and more young families below the poverty line, and there is a real lack of the Spiritual in so many people's lives.<BR/><BR/>I weish I had an answer! ...ZZarebahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15036285066771181559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16682364.post-1138974211759546702006-02-03T09:43:00.000-04:002006-02-03T09:43:00.000-04:00I wonder if, like rape, the "increase" isn't more ...I wonder if, like rape, the "increase" isn't more a fact of reporting and recognizing that it is wrong and unacceptable than of an actual increase. I know my aunt and uncle had an abusive relationship - it was never really spoken of, except in sighs and frowns, it was a sad family secret. There was no sense that it was wrong, only that it was too bad that she had to put up with this. And that was just another working class American family in the 50's/60's.Haydenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02758977872663382006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16682364.post-1138931265698025532006-02-02T21:47:00.000-04:002006-02-02T21:47:00.000-04:00Thank you, Kathy. I am glad you have broken the pa...Thank you, Kathy. I am glad you have broken the pattern. It truly is difficult and so many women do not manage it. For me, it was many years ago, and what made me finally walk away was when he threatened our 5 year old child. <BR/><BR/>I too am blessed with a wonderful partner the second time around.Zarebahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15036285066771181559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16682364.post-1138912405655495252006-02-02T16:33:00.000-04:002006-02-02T16:33:00.000-04:00Me too, Goddess. No one should ever have to experi...Me too, Goddess. No one should ever have to experience such treatment. Unfortunately too many women, and a few men have done so and are doing so now. I have wondered if part of the reason we tolerate it at all is a need to be loved combined with that nebulous empty feeling that there is something missing in our lives. Perhaps if we came to find our path a little earlier in our lives, we would not be victims at all.Zarebahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15036285066771181559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16682364.post-1138901593474547872006-02-02T13:33:00.000-04:002006-02-02T13:33:00.000-04:00I was in abusive relationships when I was a teena...I was in abusive relationships when I was a teenager - not physical, more psychological. I'm glad I outgrew whatever that was in me that would tolerate that.Meadowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13200771118045164229noreply@blogger.com