tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16682364.post113310953682357753..comments2023-11-02T10:12:06.326-03:00Comments on Journey Into Being: The MaskZarebahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15036285066771181559noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16682364.post-1133196110254358452005-11-28T12:41:00.000-04:002005-11-28T12:41:00.000-04:00Goddess, you are so right. After looking anger in ...Goddess, you are so right. After looking anger in the eye, I was left with figuring out how to deal with fear! <BR/><BR/>...ZZarebahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15036285066771181559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16682364.post-1133196038724911382005-11-28T12:40:00.000-04:002005-11-28T12:40:00.000-04:00Darlene, thanks for your comments. I agree that we...Darlene, thanks for your comments. I agree that we quite often have valid reasons for our anger, I have just found that when I examine those reasons, there is a deeper emotion clinging to them. An example comes to mind. Many years ago, I was making dinner and heard the squeal of tires. When I went to investigate, my young daughter was sitting in the middle of the road and the front bumper of the police car was within 2 feet of her. She had escaped the fenced back yard in a moment of inattention. I flew out the door, grabbed her and tanned her backside, I was so angry. If you think about the reason for the anger, you will see that it was fear motivated. I was afraid she could have been hurt. Another case is when someone spread rumors about me. They were not true, but it made me so very angry that I could have chewed them up and spit them out. Further investigation revealed that I was actually fearful that people would believe the rumors and not like me. Again fear, accompanied this time with insecurity, which is in itself a form of fear.<BR/><BR/>Anger damages me much more than it damages the one I may be directing the anger at. I found that by examining the emotion, I have been able to defuse the feelings, prevent the adrenalin rush, keep a civil tongue and preserve my own sanity.<BR/><BR/>I also agree with you that expressing the anger would often be disastrous, I just refused to live with the pent up frustration that stifling it creates.Zarebahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15036285066771181559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16682364.post-1133185559585964162005-11-28T09:45:00.000-04:002005-11-28T09:45:00.000-04:00Hmm. Fear always messes up a good thing.Hmm. Fear always messes up a good thing.Meadowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13200771118045164229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16682364.post-1133138610164482592005-11-27T20:43:00.000-04:002005-11-27T20:43:00.000-04:00This definitely makes me assess the past and prese...This definitely makes me assess the past and present times I've been angry. Thankfully I haven't been angry that much throughout the years, and usually it's been of a fleeting sort. I do, however, acknowledge specific times back when I was growing up and felt a truly deep-seated anger, and I still recognize them as honest reactions with valid reasons why they should have made me so angry. <BR/><BR/>Nowadays I generally feel anger towards just certain people or because of specific situations, but I dare not express my anger as readily, so the frustration builds up. But I've accepted that this is a part of life, because expressing my anger would be disastrous.Darlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14097905937552636768noreply@blogger.com